means ngozi i.e., particularly an avenging spirit of a deceased biological parent to their child (or children) because their offspring did something terribly wrong against them. For example, murder, physical and verbal assault, etc.
That said, there are some people who think this type of ngozi only happens if you've serious issues with your mother. But that's not the case. Beef is beef, and there'll be perpetual warfare too with your dad until a customary way of appeasing this particular avenging spirit in what's called kutanda botso. Basically, the child has to voluntarily go around town in rags testifying to random people what they did for a period of time. After that, the beef is squashed.
That said, there are some people who think this type of ngozi only happens if you've serious issues with your mother. But that's not the case. Beef is beef, and there'll be perpetual warfare too with your dad until a customary way of appeasing this particular avenging spirit in what's called kutanda botso. Basically, the child has to voluntarily go around town in rags testifying to random people what they did for a period of time. After that, the beef is squashed.