Does African culture still put pressure on women to get married?

[Borrowdale Barron]

Do you still see the influence of contemporary African marriage traditions and customs putting pressure towards the idea of women getting more respect if married in African societies?

 

[Queen]

Marriage in African traditional society has always been the reason why some women hate the African culture's ways of thinking because, a woman who ain't married yet, is often seen as someone who is scandalous and troublesome since the conclusion will be she can't keep a man. So yeah.

 

[Numero Uno]

There is now a growing trend of African women marrying themselves. Perhaps they do it as a means to avoid being shunned by friends and relatives.

 

[Borrowdale Barron]

There is now a growing trend of African women marrying themselves. Perhaps they do it as a means to avoid being shunned by friends and relatives.

Do you mean the decision of a woman paying her own lobola ("roora")?

 

[Numero Uno]

Do you mean the decision of a woman paying her own lobola ("roora")?

Yes, that's what I meant.

 

[Borrowdale Barron]

Yes, that's what I meant.

But more and more African women are now breadwinners and earn more money than their partners. So in theory doesn't it make sense for her to help with lobola ("bride price")?

 

[Numero Uno]

But more and more African women are now breadwinners and earn more money than their partners. So in theory doesn't it make sense for her to help with lobola ("bride price")?

Well, in many African marriage traditions, a woman paying her own lobola is grounds for a man to be ridiculed for not being financially prepared to start a family.

 

[Queen]

There is now a growing trend of African women marrying themselves.

How can you force yourself on a man and into a marriage besides the lobola thing?

 

[Scorpio]

How can you force yourself on a man and into a marriage besides the lobola thing?

By giving it up too fast and using your body to get him to fall for you, then getting pregnant when that's not what he's ready for or what he wants at the moment. And later on using the baby to convince him to be a family with you.

 

[Queen]

By giving it up too fast and using your body to get him to fall for you, then getting pregnant when that's not what he's ready for or what he wants at the moment. And later on using the baby to convince him to be a family with you.

What you have literary said there is that somehow the woman is solely to blame in trapping him? Why should he neglect the use protection (contraception), knowing pregnancy can be the end result?

 

[Scorpio]

What you have literary said there is that somehow the woman is solely to blame in trapping him? Why should he neglect the use protection (contraception), knowing pregnancy can be the end result?

If you happen to be cheap and get treated that way you can't complain after the fact. Just like you can't hate on any woman who sets her legit requirements and a man brings the universe at her feet.

 

[Borrowdale Barron]

What about the often referenced standpoint that African culture is set up to protect men in many traditional scenarios?

 

[Scorpio]

What about the often referenced standpoint that African culture is set up to protect men in many traditional scenarios?

I don't get it, why can't those unhappy women leave if they aren't fully satisfied?

 

[Queen]

I don't get it, why can't those unhappy women leave if they aren't fully satisfied?

There is this thing in African society whereby a woman is dignified on the grounds of her marital status. If she doesn't have a husband, unfortunately, she may be subject to being labeled with derogatory names hence deciding to stay for the sake of the "Mrs. X," title.

 

[Numero Uno]

I don't get it, why can't those unhappy women leave if they aren't fully satisfied?

So what do y'all think can really keep a woman?

 

[Scorpio]

So what do y'all think can really keep a woman?

In most cases especially when it comes to high maintenance women I just see it as only money keeps a woman, unless she is "dickmatized" or she is dealing with a poor man in also a poverty stricken environment where she doesn't seem to have too many eligible options.

 

[Black Panther]

So what do y'all think can really keep a woman?

I think you are not gonna find a perfect answer for that.

There has always been stories in history about wives of rich men messing around with broke servants and also a wives of poor men messing with rich blessers. It's not just about money.

 

[Scorpio]

You are not gonna find a perfect answer for that...

It's actually money and good dick.

 

[Queen]

So what do y'all think can really keep a woman?

The conversation needs to be about, "what men can do to keep their wives?". Women aren't just settling for less these days.

 

[Scorpio]

The conversation needs to be about, "what men can do to keep their wives?". Women aren't just settling for less these days.

I have done said it many times here how men are polygamous in nature. The monogamy lifestyle ain't natural for the average man. That is why no matter what a lady does for a man, all that nice stuff the man will still have a slay queen as his side chick.