Don't these types of people later on regret in life about kubika mapoto during the time?
The thing is
kuchaya mapoto is something men can do with ease, unlike women who will end up having second thoughts about the biological clock ticking (i.e., babies/motherhood) and the pressure of other women (e.g., friends, family, etc) asking why they are taking forever to get that ring.
Hence, for the above-stated reasons, many women are likely to see the idea of
kubika mapoto as a waste of time yet simultaneously they will be heavily contradicting themselves saying marriage is not an achievement.
If it's not an achievement she ought not to ask or wait for a ring during the course of
kuchayisa mapoto.